Raise your hand if you’ve ever tried online dating! I know I have and let me tell you – it’s terrible.
Many women I’ve talked to have expressed that they tend to lean towards just ghosting men who they don’t feel a connection with and in my past I have taken this option as well. They’ve explained to me that many times when they were upfront about their feelings, the person on the other end didn’t handle it well, they got angry and defensive. I had never tried it, but I figured that was because I hadn’t been in that position for years.
Recently, I decided that maybe I was too mature now to continue ghosting men, and that I should treat them with respect and be honest and upfront with them. Let me tell you exactly how that played out.
He. Went. Off. I was reprimanded for being the 12th in a row, I was reprimanded for my demanding schedule and I was reprimanded for not “giving him a chance”. Let me be very clear: you do not owe ANYONE a chance. If you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it and that’s your prerogative. I want my nieces to know that it’s always okay to say no, and not be afraid of it backfiring. I want to live in a world where we can all just be respectful to one another. I want to live in a world where the word “No” is respected and isn’t seen as a word that’s up for debate. Because it’s not, and I’m tired of it being so difficult for people to understand that “No means no”.