I Didn’t Always Feel like a Feminist

I know, this sounds bad. I never felt that men should be superior, but I did feel like the feminist movement was following a trend I wasn’t on board with. I didn’t like the feeling I got that feminists were fighting for woman to be greater than men. I always have completely believed in equality and for a point in my life I felt like we were.

Sure, I was young and naive – but mostly, I was wrong and I didn’t understand. I believed being a woman gave me an upper hand in certain aspects. I looked at my life and how for what I did, we were all women, and men were rarely seen doing what I did. As time went on I started to notice that the reason men didn’t do what I did, was because I was working for men. The men in my industry were the executives.

I had a traditionally good job as an assistant. A career fully saturated with strong women, but we kept our heads down and did our jobs. I felt that I accomplished this amazing feat because I was a woman. What I didn’t think about was that if I were a man, I would have people like me working for me.

That was when I took a step back from the industry I was working in and started looking for ways I could be a boss. A lady boss. I started down a few different paths, where I could see strong women leading the field. I’ve found multiple passions since then, and I’ve been so amazed to look to other independent women as role models.

Through politics, I learn from women who are outstanding in our field. They taking every task by the horns, and do an amazing job time after time. I’m beyond impressed with the drive and determination of the ladies I work with on that side. Through social media I am exposed to hundreds of bloggers and influencers who have come together to build each other up and help each other grow. I’m in awe of what we as a gender can accomplish by working together. I don’t feel like these women are using me as a stepping stone to success, I feel like these women are my teammates on our way to the top.

I’m so excited to continue down this path, and let the fierce female in me shine.

14 thoughts on “I Didn’t Always Feel like a Feminist

  1. Samantha says:

    I totally agree! Little story for ya… Coming from Pittsburgh, PA I grew up thinking life was a straight and narrow road. “Men did these things, women did those things.” I took jobs that were fitting to me [a girl]. I too was an assistant in an industry filled with men who had leading executive roles and women worked relentlessly for the title. I didn’t like the idea of me being “The girl at the front desk”. And even when I was transferred to sales it was the same motto. I heard a lot of comments like “You’re pretty. You’ll do great at sales!” Like, really? I can’t make a sale if it weren’t for my looks?… So basically I gave up on that dream of climbing the corporate ladder and settled for a remote job while focusing on what I love!

    Cheers to you for not settling for less & being a fierce woman! 🙂

    • kinijalele says:

      Ah! I love your story! I completely understand that feeling. I used to work in sales and I remember getting a transfer to a bigger city and my manager telling me point blank “I remember you from training, and remembered you were hot. So I transferred you in because I thought you’d do well with our client base.”

      Not much probably changed throughout my career as an assistant.

  2. sagebrushroads says:

    I’ve been so encouraged by the blogging community! There are so many awesome women out there to look up to and I love that we can be a support for each other!

  3. Lauren Pak says:

    YES! I love your last sentence: “I don’t feel like these women are using me as a stepping stone to success, I feel like these women are my teammates on our way to the top.” #GIRLPOWER

  4. ellymb says:

    Such a powerful post!! Love it girl! “Through social media I am exposed to hundreds of bloggers and influencers who have come together to build each other up and help each other grow.” How amazing is that!? :’)

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