#metoo – A Recovered Legal Assistant’s Experience with Sexual Harassment

As the “Me too” movement continues to go viral, I felt the need to share something that has effected me and countless others. I spent three years working for law firms. Which is a short time in comparison to most assistants. I briefly spoke on my Instagram about how one of the reasons I felt inclined to change careers was because of how common sexual harassment is in the legal industry.

I desperately wanted to work somewhere where I never felt like an object. I wanted to work somewhere where my looks were never commented on, or attempted to be capitalized on. I am exhausted from playing the game. From laughing and shrugging it off when a man who has power over me comments on my body. I hate knowing that I couldn’t press charges if I wanted to because I’m in no position to sue a lawyer. I’m tired of HR either being a joke, or being easy on the professionals because they bill a lot of time.


I know the game. I know to laugh innocently when they talk about all the disgusting things they want to do to women, I know it’s better to keep my mouth shut. I know about the assistants who have gotten involved with their lawyers, and lost their jobs because of it. While the lawyers keep their jobs and continue to move up in the field. This is normal, this is commonplace.

Your rape jokes aren’t funny. They trigger my PTSD as a sexual assault survivor. Yes, I want and deserve a raise, but not because of anything my body does or doesn’t do. It’s not worth it, and something needs to change. Firms and HR departments need to stop ignoring this problem and need to start addressing it head on. The industry as a whole must cultivate an environment where we feel safe to speak out instead of intimidating us. We’ve been silenced for too long.

Have you experienced this culture in your workplace? Sound off in the comments below.

Review – basd Body Care

I was lucky enough to stumble across this gluten-free, plant based, Canadian brand. basd Body Care is run out of Guelph, Ontario, but their products are made in Vancouver, BC. basd prides themselves on being cruelty free, paraben free and non-gmo as well. All the good things that you can feel good about putting on your body.

They come in two scents: Invigorating Mint and Indulgent Creme Brulee. In hindsight, I should have ordered the mint, as it’s more my type of scent – but alas I ordered Creme Brulee because I preferred the colour of the packaging.

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Now, hear me out – I hate sweet scents, they give my headaches and make me super nauseous. BUT this scent doesn’t do that to me. It also doesn’t give me a rash like many lotions and body washes do.

The soap and lotion aren’t what I’m super excited to tell you about, though. What I am excited about is the coffee scrub.

I’ve been meaning to try a coffee scrub for years, I knew it would be easy to make one or buy one – but I just never got around to it. I knew to expect excellent physical exfoliation, but what I didn’t expect was the way the oils from the coffee would make my skin feel. The creme brulee smell mixed with the coffee was also heavenly – I smelled like a toffee nut latte.


I love that this line is gluten free though, it’s amazing what a piece of mind it gives you to know that a product won’t break you out, burn or make your skin itchy. It feels so good to use all natural products and not think twice about the ingredients that you’re putting all over your body. My skin feels soft and I smell really good.

Note: These products were provided to me by basd body care, but all opinions are my own.

The Issue with the Hustle

Hustling is never seeing your family, it’s coming home to a dark quiet house in the middle of the night and microwaving leftovers for dinner. It’s binge eating after dinner because there wasn’t enough time in the day to eat a substantial meal. It’s missing your loved ones even if they’re 5 minutes away, because you “just don’t have time”.

Hustling is unhealthy. It’s anxiety riddled, lonely and comes with very unhealthy eating habits. Eating cheesies for breakfast is fine if it’s by choice, but when you only ate cheesies for a day because you didn’t have time to get anything else, it’s an issue.

I get that sometimes we all have to hustle. Sometimes things have to give, and sometimes it’s worth it. I really, truly hustle a couple times a year and it always takes months for me to recover from. I try my best to practice self-care during these times and that usually means I slap on a face mask twice a week and believe that’s good enough. But it’s not, I know that. The hustler lifestyle isn’t sustainable, and we, as a society, need to stop glorifying it.

Meghan Does Self-Care – Why Perfectionism is for Suckers

Welcome to the first part of a (hopefully) ongoing collaboration with my soul-sister, Meghan. I talk a lot about having an amazing tribe of women who support each other and my girl, M is a prime example of this. Yesterday I messaged my best friends and begged them to write something to post this morning because I just couldn’t bring myself to do it this week. So thank you, ladies for being my rock.

Keep reading below to get a good glimpse of one of the many reasons I love Meghan.

Perfectionism – it’s that thing you claim to have in your job interviews that makes you seem like a real catch. It’s (part of) the reason I spent a couple of years starving myself in pursuit of some imaginary ideal. I didn’t believe I deserved love, or friendship, or happiness, until I hit some inane moving target. It’s also the reason I find myself tearing up on a rainy Wednesday afternoon, convinced I’ve failed* the Intermediate Accounting exam I’ve just written (*read: got a B+). It’s the end of a tumultuous week, full of group projects, exams, work, and a bout of the flu.

Instead of patting myself on the back for getting everything done on time, I’m on the bus reliving every hour I wasted over the past seven days – and there were a lot. I’m trying to do better. Not in school, but in the way that I treat myself. Recognizing that I am a human being, and that I have limitations. Setting reasonable expectations. Taking bubble baths instead of studying when I need to. Talking to myself with the kindness and understanding I seem to find for everyone else. Perfectionism – it’s exhausting, and debilitating.

My sister texts me, “You will survive if you get a B ;)” and it’s true. A B+ is good enough. Doing my best is good enough. And me? I’m definitely good enough.

Meghan doesn’t have her own blog (yet), but check her out on instagram!

Things I’m Thankful for

This past weekend was Thanksgiving weekend in Canada, and I spent the weekend with colleagues, friends and family. The past few months have been a whirlwind, so it was nice to reflect back and think of all the things I’m thankful for this year.

1. My home

I’m so blessed and happy to be back in Vancouver, as I’ve made abundantly clear as of late. Not only that, I am thankful to live in Canada. I am thankful for my country, my province and my city.

2. My family

I’m thankful for family that loves and supports me, I’m thankful for their health. I’m thankful that I can still call members of my family and tell them about all the happenings of my life.

3. My friends

The family I chose. The sisters I wasn’t born with. My tribe. My squad. All my goals rolled into one. I’m so blessed to be surrounded by so many strong women, who I know love and support me and who know I love and support them.

4. My freedom

This year I walked away from an industry that I poured my soul in to. This year I moved across the country. Twice. I’m free to do these things. I have the most amazing support network to help me navigate me through all the craziness that’s happening. I’m so so so grateful for this freedom this year.

5. All of you

My followers and subscribers. You have given me the outlet to share my true self with the world, to post about my life and to try to inspire people. Words cannot express how thankful I am for every single one of you. Every one who reads, likes, comments, or follows along with my crazy path. It means the world to me, truly. Thank you for allowing me to express myself and pursue my passion. I’ll never take this for granted.

Happy Thanksgiving and happy harvest. I love you all so much.

Brett Alton Photography

I Want to do Something Meaningful

I want to work hard for something I believe in. I do, though. Every day I work my butt off for things I believe in. I blog about things that I feel like matter, I work on campaigns that run on causes I care about and I wake up every morning and remind myself that money doesn’t buy happiness.

It’s hard sometimes though, as I know that I can easily fall back into my old ways, collect a paycheque I can live off of comfortably and repeatedly slam my head into a spacious L-shaped desk. I can go back and plant myself in an ergonomic chair that will have been specifically adjusted for my posture and also have great extended health benefits. In exchange all I would have to do is give up on my dreams, swallow my pride and admit that all the work I’ve done to change my life was for nothing.

The catered lunches aren’t worth it though, neither is view from the top of the financial district. I will happily go the next 5 years of my life without a fancy steak dinner. I don’t want to push papers for large corporations and constantly be reminded that I am a have not. I want to work with and for my community. I want to help people and fight for real change. I want to work with other strong women and inspire people everywhere. I want to show people that you can leave your “noble” job and actually, truly thrive.

I could retire one day, and live out my final years finally pursuing my dream, or I can struggle and put the time in now, while I’m young, and spend my entire life pursuing my dreams. I might not retire, but if I’m successful in building my perfect life, would I even want to?

You’re Doing Enough 

You’re doing great. I know it feels like sometimes you should be doing so much more, but probably not.

The past week since getting home has been stupid busy for me, and I keep feeling like I should be taking on more in all aspects of my life. The reality of it is, I barely have time for myself as it currently stands and if I try to take on more, the things I have already committed to will start to slip.

I already forget to post on Instagram, I’m already writing this post in the middle of the night before it goes up. I’m already stressed about tomorrow, and I’m already behind on everything else. It’s so important to be mindful of your limitations, and that they fluctuate. What can be absolutely under control one week, can cause chaos the next. Listen to your body, listen to your mind and don’t push yourself past what you’re capable of.

You need to remember this too. You’re doing enough, you’re doing great and don’t be so hard on yourself. We only have so many hours in a week, and we all need sleep. Make time for self care, drink water, take care of your skin and don’t beat yourself up if you eat Cheezies for lunch.

The Comfort of Coming Home

I’m back in Vancouver, and my heart is calm. Being home has absolutely not been traditionally relaxing, but emotionally and spiritually my soul has found comfort. My first view of the city from the airplane sparked strong feelings, feelings of joy and belonging. I became emotional as my anxiety cleared and I knew I was home.

I was welcomed by family and my amazing friends who surprised me at the airport with signs. I am so blessed to be embraced in so much love here. People like this are the reason I knew I had to come home. The city itself presented me with the most breathtaking sunset the following night. Watching the sunset from my favourite place over my absolutely favourite view of the city was the most welcoming feeling I could have asked for.

I found a campaign to work on immediately, in an office chalk full of my kind of people. It felt as though within moments of touch down, my life began to fall into place. After what felt like an eternity of chaos and disorganization, within hours I felt like I had gotten my life back together. Everything has been busy, I haven’t had much free time, and I couldn’t be happier. I’m the amount of busy I’m comfortable with and I’m happy to be falling back into my routine and allowing myself to focus on my passions and and my future.

For the first time in months feel like I’ve made the right decision, and I will not tell you it was easy. But today, I can tell you with all seriousness, it was the correct decision. I sleep better now, I feel better now, it’s all better now.

Best Gluten Free Eats in Vancouver 

Having been diagnosed as Celiac two and a half years ago, it has taken some getting used to. Travelling to new cities is always hard because I have to find new places that can accommodate my needs but also don’t taste like cardboard. I’ve found a few here and there, but now that I’m back in Vancouver, I can revisit my favourite places for a bite.

1. Scandilicious

Okay. Gluten. Free. Waffles. What more could you need in the world? There’s like a gazillion things you can eat here and they know what they’re talking about when it comes to gluten. These waffles are crispy on the outside, and light and fluffy on the inside. They’re a little bit sweeter than your average waffle, which I swear makes the savory waffles so much better because it balances out the salt.

My Pick: Savory – The West Coast Waffle (sub GF waffle) | Sweet – Veganessa

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2. The Mexican

This isn’t specific to the Mexican, I suppose. But it is my favourite spot for Mexican eats. The nice thing about Mexican and Latin cuisine is that they tend to use corn flour for most things rather than wheat flour. This makes it waaay easier for us gluten free girls (and guys) to have a large selection.

My Pick: Enfrijoladas (add chicken)


The nice thing about SMAK is that everything there is gluten free. I don’t love anything there, but I do enjoy that it’s a quick spot for lunch, with a nice atmosphere and a strictly gluten free menu. I also love that it’s local to Vancouver, because who doesn’t love supporting local businesses?!

My Pick: Coconut Pork Bowl (sub for Quinoa)

4. Freshii

Okay, I know – I didn’t try Freshii actually until I was in Ottawa. I actively avoided it because it sounded like just another healthy chain, which I was not on board with. The nice thing about travelling though, is that you try new things. So I tried Freshii for lunch one day.. and then went back the next day.. and a couple more times that week. Freshii is not dedicated gluten free, but they know exactly what they’re talking about. The food is fresh, feels good for you but doesn’t TASTE good for you. The winning combination.

My Pick: Oaxaca Bowl with Chicken (No wontons, sub for cilantro-lime sauce)

5. Cartems Donuterie

Cartems was like a god send when I discovered it. I had just been diagnosed and therefore very disappointed with every gluten free product I could find. I had heard some babble around town about a shop downtown that had gluten free donuts. I was obviously intrigued. When I tried it I knew immediately it was going to be a problem. Their donuts are dense, yes – but they are also moist and delicious. No cardboard here.

My Pick: Honestly, they’re all good. Try all of them.

6. Two Daughters Bakeshop

I have found few really good gluten free bakeries over the years. Two Daughters is the only one I have found in the Greater Vancouver Area that I would genuinely recommend. I have by no means tried everything they offer, but everything I have tried has been delicious. The kind of delicious where you forget you’re eating a gluten free dessert.

My Pick: Banana Bread and Chocolate Peppermint Sandwich Cookies

There’s also so many good chains that offer great gluten free menus. I tend to frequent Cactus Club, White Spot and Carlos O’Briens for an easy night out with friends or a working lunch.

What are your favourite Gluten Free spots on the Lower Mainland?

*none of the photos used in the article are my own, and I do not assume credit for them*

I Didn’t Always Feel like a Feminist

I know, this sounds bad. I never felt that men should be superior, but I did feel like the feminist movement was following a trend I wasn’t on board with. I didn’t like the feeling I got that feminists were fighting for woman to be greater than men. I always have completely believed in equality and for a point in my life I felt like we were.

Sure, I was young and naive – but mostly, I was wrong and I didn’t understand. I believed being a woman gave me an upper hand in certain aspects. I looked at my life and how for what I did, we were all women, and men were rarely seen doing what I did. As time went on I started to notice that the reason men didn’t do what I did, was because I was working for men. The men in my industry were the executives.

I had a traditionally good job as an assistant. A career fully saturated with strong women, but we kept our heads down and did our jobs. I felt that I accomplished this amazing feat because I was a woman. What I didn’t think about was that if I were a man, I would have people like me working for me.

That was when I took a step back from the industry I was working in and started looking for ways I could be a boss. A lady boss. I started down a few different paths, where I could see strong women leading the field. I’ve found multiple passions since then, and I’ve been so amazed to look to other independent women as role models.

Through politics, I learn from women who are outstanding in our field. They taking every task by the horns, and do an amazing job time after time. I’m beyond impressed with the drive and determination of the ladies I work with on that side. Through social media I am exposed to hundreds of bloggers and influencers who have come together to build each other up and help each other grow. I’m in awe of what we as a gender can accomplish by working together. I don’t feel like these women are using me as a stepping stone to success, I feel like these women are my teammates on our way to the top.

I’m so excited to continue down this path, and let the fierce female in me shine.